Q&A #2 : What is Important for Success?

Query from MGF: What is important for success?

Answer : That’s a very tricky and personal question,
ultimately it depends on a host of things, like having a vision and the determination to realise it. The best I can do is to answer this in a general way by focusing on …

People’s Basic Traits for Success
(a trait is a personal characteristic, habit or behavioural tendency)
Here’s my list :

1. Belief in your self
2. Needing to improve fuelled by a feeling of insecurity – care needed!
3. Having a clear understanding of what success would be for yourself
4. Your presence – “the immediate and lingering impression you make”
5. Having a genuine attitude for actually doing it, consistently
6. An emotional hunger that is at least being partially satisfied
7. Being able to delegate and get things done
   and checking they are done well

Here is a different view of the same issue, this time taken from the American therapist Julia Krystina. I picked up on her thoughts because she is very down to earth but her presentation style is far too ‘full on’ for me. Here she is focussing on a ‘sister topic’, confidence, which is needed to support ‘success’.

What are the traits of a confident person?

1. You realise you don’t always need to be right
2. You share your ideas but don’t get too precious about them;
   and you are tolerant of other people having other ideas
3. You are open to learning from others
4. You are mindful of where and how you spend your energy; and choose whether or not to engage
5. You believe in your goals and are not deflected by adversity or events. You have self belief in resilience, competence and intelligence; in a word – stickability
6. You celebrate your successes, determination and persistence, and
7. You practice a sense of belonging wherever you go, and find a way to fit in somehow. You seem to ‘belong’ wherever you are because you at least belong to ourself and are living in the ‘now’.
8. You don’t believe ‘self rejecting’ negative thoughts. You will always have them from time to time (your Ego trying to dominate you) but you don’t have to believe them!
9. You say NO without feeling guilty whenever you want to or need to. You say YES when you mean it or want to without feeling guilty.
10. You accept who you are now. You define and decide how you feel about yourself, you don’t let others do that, ever.

Well, that’s a lot to remember! It’s even more to do naturally. So to absorb it the best way is to practice doing it whenever the opportunity arises. One trait at a time.